A Very Necessary Talk (Brave-Aid 2 the Rescue)

Alright ladies this one is especially for us. How come we are the more verbal sex when it comes to emotions yet I am coming to understand that it pains us sometimes just as much to be completely honest. So I joined the ranks of many women who I would call chumps recently. I was talking to a guy but instead of always directly asking him how he felt about something I would just ask a mutual friend. Pretty high school right, yeah well we all do it. Finally because of the "middle man" communication style we had chosen messages had gotten crossed so bad that I was extremely hurt by something that I didnt even know if he said. I reacted to this and he assumed that I hated him and had no reason why. Yeah I know really middle school right, it gets better.

So finally I decided I had enough of this junk. I, with the help of my inner circle, realized I needed to sort out what was going on and have a very necessary talk with him. It had gotten so bad that I starting having dreams about him. I realized that when I have unresolved issues my sleep is directly affected and I feel like a crazy woman.

I drank a case of Brave-Aid and I called him Wednesday before thanksgiving but he was just arriving to his out of town destination. We decided that we would talk later. We had been playing phone tag since then until last night. We finally got to talk! Now usually, honestly when I have these talks I always leave out one important detail that is vital to the conversation. This time I did no such thing. I completely expressed myself. WHOO HOO! I felt so free and liberated. Truth is even though we as ladies are more verbal about our feelings and emotions, we find it much easier to express negative emotions than happy ones. We have no problem telling a guy that he isn't pleasing us but telling him that he's wonderful, well at least for me is like pulling teeth.

Anyway our talk was sensational and a lot was revealed. All positive stuff. Our friendship is completely restored and I am truly happy about it. I am never letting the middle man syndrome get in the way of another relationship with anyone, especially a man!